Our greatest strengths are our greatest weaknesses...
When reading this topic for the first time, millions of thoughts went rushing through my mind. Recalling all the things that I find to be strengths and weaknesses to myself.
We, as humans, have all been given the opportunity to love or to be loved. But when a person takes it too far, and yes you can actually take it too far, it becomes harmful and destructive. Everyone wants to be loved, not over-loved.
When we are born, we either get born with special talents or we get have to work a little harder at developing special talents. We are all born gifted in one way or another. It is how we use these talents that counts. If one goes over board and doesn't use them wisely, they can become soul destroying.
It is also not a good idea to boast about certain talents you may have and others don't. This will leave them feeling rather inferior and will not want to be around you.
Weaknesses have the potential to become strengths one day if we keep working hard on them.
Using our strengths in a positive way or to help others gives one a rewarding feeling. Boasting about them may make you feel better about yourself, but in the end you'll only be left with yourself.
One needs to draw from their strengths and draw from their weaknesses to try find the perfect balance for themself.
Thursday, May 28, 2009
Thursday, May 21, 2009
Feelings follow behaviour
What are feelings? And what is behaviour?
According to Wikipedia.org, a feeling is used to describe the physical sensation of touch either through experience or perception. AND behaviour refers to the actions or reactions of an object or organism, usually in relation to the environment. Behaviour can be conscious or unconscious, voluntary or involuntary.
James D. Laird wrote in his book, Feelings, "If feelings follow behaviour, they cannot be the causes of behaviour, since causes must precede their effects."
According to Wikipedia.org, a feeling is used to describe the physical sensation of touch either through experience or perception. AND behaviour refers to the actions or reactions of an object or organism, usually in relation to the environment. Behaviour can be conscious or unconscious, voluntary or involuntary.
James D. Laird wrote in his book, Feelings, "If feelings follow behaviour, they cannot be the causes of behaviour, since causes must precede their effects."
Often behaviour can change one's feelings. Weird, but true. For example, if you force yourself to be happy, you will eventually become happy. And if you force yourself to think before you react to certain emotions, you will change your behaviour before doing things.
Behaviour usually follows feelings, but, in some instances, one's behaviour can alter one's feelings. For example, you go shopping because you are sad and need some cheering up. After you find the perfect pair of shoes and purchase them your feelings go from being sad to a feeling of happiness.
Feelings work together with behaviour. People are more concerned about their feelings than their actions. We all just need to take a step back and let our behaviour lead the way for a change.Thursday, May 14, 2009
It's better to practice a little than talk a lot.
It really is better to practice a little than to talk a lot.
When it comes to touchy topics, such as politics or opinions, it is better to know all the facts first before passing judgement. People are so quick in giving their opinions, but do not always know the facts. When this happens, a lot of the time these people end up looking like fools. When all they really needed to do was to just keep up-to-date on these certain topics.
If one doesn’t fully know what they are talking about, they shouldn’t talk at all.
One is also more confident if they prepare before speeches too. If one is confident, the margin of errors during the presentation gets reduced. Taking the time to prepare put you at ease, as you know what you want to communicate and how you would like to communicate that message.
Unfortunately, in life, it is too easy to give our opinions and thoughts on certain topics, whether we know what we are talking about or not. This often lands us in trouble if we really don’t know all the facts. We are all guilty of this, no matter who we are or what we are. It is one of those things that are just easier said than done.
When it comes to touchy topics, such as politics or opinions, it is better to know all the facts first before passing judgement. People are so quick in giving their opinions, but do not always know the facts. When this happens, a lot of the time these people end up looking like fools. When all they really needed to do was to just keep up-to-date on these certain topics.
If one doesn’t fully know what they are talking about, they shouldn’t talk at all.
One is also more confident if they prepare before speeches too. If one is confident, the margin of errors during the presentation gets reduced. Taking the time to prepare put you at ease, as you know what you want to communicate and how you would like to communicate that message.
Unfortunately, in life, it is too easy to give our opinions and thoughts on certain topics, whether we know what we are talking about or not. This often lands us in trouble if we really don’t know all the facts. We are all guilty of this, no matter who we are or what we are. It is one of those things that are just easier said than done.
Thursday, May 7, 2009
It is a poor idea to lie to yourself
Lying in general is a bad thing to do.
When one lies to themselves, they are either trying to hide something or cannot face the truth. Women generally tend to do this more than men, seeing as we are the ones more concerned with our appearances and want to appear as doing okay.
It all depends on what you are lying to yourself about as well. There is no point in beating around the bush. You are the way you are. You cannot help that, so face it and learn to live with it.
We cannot tell ourselves we are okay about something when we are really not. It'll always be there at the back of our minds not matter how much we lie to ourselves about it. We need to stand up to it and own it.
When we lie to ourselves, what is stopping us from lying to other people? Nothing. Lying may make you feel better for a little while, but it is not permanent. The happy feeling will fade and you'll be stuck where you started.
The best solution is to always be honest with yourself, because only then can you be truly honest with others.
If you are not happy about something, let it out. Do not lie about it. If you lie, it cannot be changed, if you tell the truth something can be done about it.
When one lies to themselves, they are either trying to hide something or cannot face the truth. Women generally tend to do this more than men, seeing as we are the ones more concerned with our appearances and want to appear as doing okay.
It all depends on what you are lying to yourself about as well. There is no point in beating around the bush. You are the way you are. You cannot help that, so face it and learn to live with it.
We cannot tell ourselves we are okay about something when we are really not. It'll always be there at the back of our minds not matter how much we lie to ourselves about it. We need to stand up to it and own it.
When we lie to ourselves, what is stopping us from lying to other people? Nothing. Lying may make you feel better for a little while, but it is not permanent. The happy feeling will fade and you'll be stuck where you started.
The best solution is to always be honest with yourself, because only then can you be truly honest with others.
If you are not happy about something, let it out. Do not lie about it. If you lie, it cannot be changed, if you tell the truth something can be done about it.
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